Can you feel as though you’ve been going through life not able to connect to groups, with other people, or any portion of society in a meaningful manner? Has this growing feeling of disconnection from the outside world generated deep feelings of isolation within you? Do you find relationships are hard when the other person you meet is unable to fill a void within you?
It would seem we live in a time when it’s likely to be connected to one another more than ever, thanks largely in part to social media. All a person has to do is to open up one of the online social networking accounts and discover hundreds of new online friends. Then photos can be shared, important events mentioned, and any other private or random information provided. These online friends can then express their feelings, using emoticons for feelings, and hopefully they will”like” what has been shared. If someone does not like something shared, there may be negative interactions. However the hope is friends are available, they will listen to you, and they’ll like what they see and whatever you share or post.
So, with the availability of social networking, why would anyone ever have to feel lonely?
If you can envision a pre-computer age when someone was at home alone, and they couldn’t access social media accounts, they must have felt really alone. There would be no one else to speak to or interact with, unless they left the house or called someone and encouraged them to come over. Now we live in a digital age and anyone with a computer has access to a worldwide audience or a seemingly unlimited base of individuals to connect and socialize with, talk to and be friends with, and someone can spend time socializing together through these social networking accounts. It would appear this is an era of the most highly connected people ever, which should equate to the most engaged and interactive people also.
A universal truth is this: An individual link occurs at an energetic level, when two or more individuals are engaged in a manner in which they can experience each other through a multi-dimensional and multi-sensory method.
The multi-dimensional effect can occur to a degree when a person speaks to another person through telecommunication devices, since there’s still a multi-sensory approach involved and the flow of energy can occur to some degree. Where all this is lost is when digital communication replaces human communication entirely, when there is not any multi-sensory approach other than perceptions and emotions. This is no more multi-dimensional as no lively exchange happens, which means a person can send as many messages as they desire, believe they feel a specific way about someone else, and never actually experience this other individual on an energetic level.
This is why a person that has thousands of friends on social media who they do not understand can still feel lonely. If this individual never met those friends, or never talked with them, they have never had an energetic exchange. This is why many online dating experiences appear to fall apart once the online exchanges proceed to in-person meetings.
How Humans Experience Life
In actuality, the universe is pure energy, as is every living thing in the world. A individual is alive because energy flows to and through their body. People rely on energetic connections then to experience life as this is the order of life. A individual goes outside, feels the wind, makes an energetic connection, and experiences life. A person pets a cat or dog, makes an energetic relationship, and encounters a bond as a creature like that holds no ill intentions. These are connections, energetic experiences which each and every individual has in their life.
What Society Teaches People About Connections
However the focus of life that humans are taught is not how they connect with life, but every other. A person could feel connected to life only by taking a shower or tub, feeling the water and allowing an energetic experience to occur. But this is a society which emphasizes relationships, being with someone, being normal, breeding, procreating, settling down, the”white picket fence” dream, and searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Someone who’s in their 20s should be thinking ahead towards the future and planning for the time when they’ll settle down and from their 30s, they should be with a suitable mate, spouse, husband, or wife, based on social norms. Someone who has multiple partners, relationships, or one-night stands can be looked down upon and negative phrases and words are used to describe them. A single individual in their 40s usually suggests somebody with a shortage of some sort, often someone who appreciates a profession over a relationship, based on social standards.
The process of finding a suitable partner, spouse, date, husband, or wife is similar to finding online buddies. This involves perceptions and reactive emotions, not a multi-dimensional, multi-sensory approach and connection if the sole method of connection made is through an online website and/or electronic communication.
Society has greatly reduced the whole process into a swiping method based upon perceived physical characteristics, together with certain status indicators, as if this creates a sense of knowing a person, which it never will. Physical attributes, along with status indicators, will never replace a real human exchange where an energetic connection happens.
What It Means to Make an Energetic Connection
It’s a process of aligning together, both of your current and future plans, goals, ideals, and interests. It’s developing a link of who the true self is, with no mask of an internet identity or avatar. It is the true you, including your past and your current. It’s what some refer to as”being yourself” with somebody else, as your energy can flow easily one to another. There are no filters, no need to conceal, and there are no limitations. There’s only a pure sense of wanting to experience life together.
Can this happen immediately? Yes, since there are no rules and you have established your life’s plan before you came into this physical existence.
You may also not have a lifelong relationship with this person as your plan may have been to engage in a set of short-term relationships. But the value of knowing all this is that you need to engage with another individual to have a true relationship, where energy is exchanged.
The Dangers of Social Media Connections
For a lot of individuals, this doesn’t happen as society emphasizes certain looks, features, and other characteristics. It can be hard for anyone outside the norm to find someone to connect with in an energetic level. More importantly, society has highlighted the use of social media to the point many people now believe they have actual friends on the web, even if they have never met most or all of these. Or those who try dating websites may develop an online connection until they meet the person and find it never really existed in the first place.
The fact is there are more lonely people now then ever before. Those using social media get quickly addicted to the process of finding and adding new friends, and trying to be liked for their articles, messages, and photos. The addictive nature is a consequence of what feels like the promise of a reward of happiness for gaining new followers and friends. Yet what most people find rather is a hollow feeling from the constant effort put into the process. The level of desperation to get the attention of friends and followers has reached an all time high too, to the point nudity and profanity is no more shocking for most people to see or read.
Even worse, this electronic communication cannot fill an inner sense of void. In fact, the more that a person attempts to gain friends and connections through this means, the more likely they will develop feelings of desperation. This positive energy is restorative in nature and from it flows harmony and balance. But if a person has isolated themselves from others, tried to connect through digital means and failed to negate their sense of loneliness, the despair that sets in will intensify with time.
Even having one or two close friends may not be enough to negate the inner sense of unbalance felt, if someone believes they are supposed to be at a certain stage in life and they aren’t, and/or they should be with someone else and they aren’t. It is these mental conditions created by the norms in society that causes internalized pressures.
Even if an individual leaves their home and sets out to meet others, they can still feel as if they’re invisible to all, if their mindset is focused on finding something or someone to meet them. And even should a person meet somebody and establish an energetic relationship, if they haven’t addressed their current mindset, they could still feel all alone while in a relationship.
The reply to loneliness isn’t an external remedy or remedy but an inner one.
The only way someone can ever start to feel whole and happy is to learn how to focus on what is going on inside of them and how they feel when they connect with components in their environment. Someone can feel good by finding ways of linking to positive internal and external elements. From an internal perspective, there are positive memories flowing throughout the energy stream. These may be family memories, together with accomplishments and achievements. From an external perspective, nature provides an abundance of ways to connect at an energetic level, from animals to plants to lakes and the oceans. Nature can be extended to include pets also, that have a sole purpose of bonding with humans.
Then you can turn your attention to people. Most people you socialize with, even it’s only for a short period, can be a positive energetic connection if you permit it. Try to smile and say hello. Allow that energy to flow back and forth. The purpose of all of these suggestions is to help you understand you’re a living human being, not a profile or avatar. You are supposed to experience life and connect with nature and with others. You can do this and expertise life even in the event that you do not have the perfect mate, partner, husband, wife, or friends.
You must first learn to be on your own and connect to life on an energetic level. This will drive away any sense you have that you are alone because as a dwelling, lively being you are connected to the universe and are never alone. Then as you experience life in this manner, some of these brief connections will soon turn into long-term friendships and more, naturally and easily.