Can you feel as if you’ve been going through life not able to connect to classes, with others, or some other part of society in a meaningful way? Has this growing feeling of disconnection from the outside world created deep feelings of isolation within you? Do you find relationships are hard when the other person you meet is not able to fill a void within you?
It would seem we live in a time when it’s likely to be connected to one another more than ever, thanks mostly in part to social media. All a person has to do is to start up one of their online social media accounts and discover countless new online friends. Then photos can be shared, important events mentioned, and any other private or random information provided. If someone doesn’t like something shared, there can be negative interactions. Yet the hope is friends are available, they will listen to you, and they will like what they see and whatever you post or share.
So, with the availability of social media, why would anyone ever have to feel lonely?
If you can imagine a pre-computer age when someone was at home alone, and they couldn’t access social networking accounts, they must have felt really alone. There would be no one else to speak to or interact with, unless they physically left the home or called someone and encouraged them to come over. Now we live in a digital age and anyone with a computer has access to a worldwide audience or a seemingly infinite foundation of people to connect and interact with, speak to and be friends with, and somebody can spend some time socializing with them through these social networking accounts. It would seem this is an era of the most highly connected people ever, which should equate to the most interactive and engaged people as well.
A universal truth is this: A human link happens at an energetic level, when two or more humans are engaged in a fashion in which they can experience each other through a multi-dimensional and multi-sensory method.
The multi-dimensional effect can occur to a degree when a person speaks to another person through telecommunication devices, as there’s still a multi-sensory approach involved and the flow of energy can occur to some degree. Where all of this is missing is when electronic communication replaces human communication completely, when there’s not any multi-sensory approach aside from perceptions and emotions. This is no more multi-dimensional as no lively exchange occurs, which means a person can send as many messages as they want, believe they feel a specific way about someone else, and yet never really experience this other individual on an energetic level.
This is the reason a person that has thousands of friends on social media who they do not understand can still feel lonely. If this individual never met those friends, or never spoke with them, they have not had an energetic exchange. This is why many online dating experiences appear to fall apart once the online exchanges move to in-person meetings.
How People Experience Life
As people, we are energetic beings. In fact, the world is pure energy, as is every living thing in the universe. A person is alive because energy flows to and throughout their body. A person goes outside, feels the wind, makes an energetic connection, and experiences life. Someone pets a cat or dog, makes an energetic relationship, and experiences a bond as a creature such as that holds no ill intentions. These are connections, lively experiences that each and every person has in their lifetime.
What Society Teaches People About Connections
However the focus of life that people are educated is not how they relate with life, but every other. Someone could feel connected to life only by taking a shower or tub, feeling the water and allowing an energetic encounter to occur. However, this is a society which emphasizes relationships, being with someone, being ordinary, mating, procreating, settling down, the”white picket fence” fantasy, and looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Someone who’s in their 20s should be thinking ahead towards the future and planning for the time when they’ll repay and by their 30s, they should be with an appropriate mate, spouse, husband, or wife, based on social norms. A single individual in their 40s usually signals someone with a deficit of some sort, often someone who appreciates a career over a relationship, according to societal standards.
The process of finding a suitable partner, partner, date, husband, or wife is similar to finding online buddies. This entails perceptions and reactive emotions, not a multi-dimensional, multi-sensory approach and connection if the sole method of connection made is through an online website and/or electronic communication.
Society has greatly reduced the entire process into a swiping method based upon perceived physical traits, along with certain status indicators, like this creates a sense of knowing a person, which it never will. Physical attributes, together with status indicators, will never replace an actual human exchange where an energetic connection happens.
What does it mean for an energetic connection to occur? It is developing a connection of who the true self is, without the mask of an online identity or avatar. It’s the true you, including your past and your present. It is what some refer to as”being yourself” with someone else, as your energy can flow easily one to another. There are no filters, no need to hide, and there are no restrictions. There’s just a pure feeling of wanting to experience life together.
Can this happen quickly? Yes, since there are no rules and you have created your life’s plan before you came into this physical existence.
Yet you might have also proposed a time of cultivation or what some refer to as”getting to know one another” before making a long-term commitment. You might also not have a lifelong relationship with this person as your strategy may have been to engage in a set of short-term relationships. But the value of understanding all this is that you need to engage with another person to have a true connection, where energy is exchanged.
The Dangers of Social Media Connections
For a lot of people, this doesn’t happen as society emphasizes certain looks, features, and other features. It can be difficult for anybody outside the norm to find someone to connect with at an energetic level. More to the point, society has highlighted the use of social media to the point many people now think they have actual friends on the web, even if they have never met most or all of these. Or those who try dating sites may develop an internet connection until they meet the person and find it never really existed to begin with.
The simple fact is there are more lonely individuals now then ever before. Those who use social media get quickly addicted to the practice of finding and adding new friends, and trying to be liked for their articles, messages, and photos. The addictive nature is a result of what feels like the promise of a reward of happiness for gaining new followers and friends. Yet what most individuals find instead is a hollow feeling from the continuous effort put into the process.
Even worse, this electronic communication can’t fill an inner sense of void. In actuality, the more that a person attempts to gain friends and connections through this means, the more likely they will develop feelings of desperation. This positive energy is curative in nature and from it flows harmony and equilibrium. But if a individual has isolated themselves from other people, tried to link through digital means and failed to negate their feeling of loneliness, the despair that sets in will intensify with time.
Even having one or two close friends might not be enough to negate the inner sense of unbalance felt, if someone believes they should be at a certain stage in life and they are not, and/or they should be with someone else and they are not. It’s these mental conditions created by the standards in society that causes internalized pressures.
Even if a person leaves their home and sets out to meet others, they can still feel as though they are invisible to all, if their mindset is focused on finding something or someone to meet them. And even should a person meet someone and establish an energetic connection, if they haven’t addressed their existing mindset, they could still feel all alone while in a relationship.
The reply to loneliness isn’t an outside fix or solution but an inner one.
The only way someone can ever begin to feel whole and happy is to learn to concentrate on what is going on inside of them and how they feel when they connect with elements in their environment. A person can feel good by finding ways of linking to positive internal and external components. From an internal standpoint, there are positive memories flowing throughout the energy flow. These may be family memories, along with accomplishments and achievements. From an external standpoint, nature offers an abundance of approaches to connect at an energetic level, from animals to plants to lakes and the oceans. Nature can be extended to include pets as well, that have a sole purpose of bonding with people.
Most people you interact with, even it is only for a short period, may be a positive energetic connection if you permit it. Permit that energy to flow back and forth. The purpose of all these suggestions is to help you understand you are a living human being, not a profile or avatar. You can do this and expertise life even in the event that you do not have the perfect mate, spouse, husband, wife, or friends.
You must first learn to be on your own and connect to life on an energetic level. This will drive away any feeling you have that you are alone because as a living, lively being you’re on the world and are never alone. Then as you experience life in this fashion, some of those brief connections will soon turn into long-term friendships and more, easily and naturally.